Being at the end of a gravel road

June 10th, 2010

should not be a burden at all unless…

Unless it has rained almost continuously off and
on for the last two months .

Back in February and April we had a lot of fog.
There is an old saying that if you get fog,
ninety days later you will get moisture of some
kind.

Well one of my neighbours kept track of the days
we got rain.  The ninety day theory seems to
be true for we have had much too much rain this
spring.  Though she says it should have ended
a day or two ago, but maybe she missed a day
or two of fog.  The rain should be finished in a
couple of days though, hopefully.

The weather man says it will be a beautiful day
on Sunday for the first football game of the year.
But they usually say that if there is going to be a
game.  Wouldn’t want fans to be discouraged,
would they?  I hope he is right since my son and
his girlfriend are going to the game, though it
probably wouldn’t bother him that much.  Well,
I guess it would depend on how much it rained.

Sorry, got off on the wrong track, was suppose
to be discussing the gravel road track.  Basically
that is what it becomes, a track.  When the rain
first starts, the road is slippery from the clay
base.  The more it rains and the more people
drive on it, it becomes a track or I should say a
rut.

If you don’t want to get stuck or end up in the ditch
you have to stay in the track.  Sometimes that track
is full of water, and it usually ends up all over your
vehicle, right across your windshield.  You continuously
have to have your windshield wipers on and if you
didn’t keep your washer tank full you would have
a hard time seeing.

Most farmers this spring have gone around with a tan
vehicle no matter the real colour.  There isn’t much
sense in getting it washed either because you still
have to go back over the road to get home.

So, with most days raining and farmers driving on the
roads most days, that rut gets deeper and deeper.  If
you only have a car then forget about getting out, you
would be hung up the first few yards you traveled.  The
last steady rain nearly stopped even the trucks from
navigating the road.  If you didn’t have a 4×4 then you
could forget going anywhere.  The ruts were so deep
they were close to touching the underside of the truck
and then with water in them you needed all four wheels
to keep going.

I have to say though, that it does dry up every once in
a while and the maintainer gets to go down the road
and fill in those ruts.  It has become a weekly job for
him though, don’t know if he likes the challenge or if
he is looking forward to just regular leveling and gravel
dispersion.

I know the farmers have had enough for a very long
time.  They are getting very worried for they haven’t
been able to plant their crops.  We have a short
growing season here, so if the crops aren’t in by
the first week in June if not sooner then they might
as well forget about planting.  If they do plant then
there is a very good chance of it being frozen before
it ripens.

So as much as I like my gravel road, since it is harder
to travel on a muddy dirt road, this year has been quite
an experience.  There are always good sides to most
experiences though, I haven’t had the dust coming into
my house that usually comes from all the big trucks
going by.  We are the only ones that travel on the road
by our house because going on past our driveway is a
dirt road.  Plus it doesn’t get rutted up like the main one
that we have  to travel on to get to the highway.

In a few months  it may be so hot we will  be hoping
for rain, but that is life.  Oh well….

Patricia

Please don’t do this to your child

June 7th, 2010

“The father had placed his young son on top of the
bookcase, and was urging the youngster to jump
down into his arms.  The boy hesitated; he was
frightened.
‘Come on, son, jump!  I’m here to catch you.’
Still the boy whimpered and hesitated.
‘Now look, I’m your father.  I’m telling you to jump.
I’ll catch you.’
Finally, the boy closed his eyes and jumped.  The
father didn’t catch him, and he hit the floor with a thud.
He looked up at his father with tears of pain in his eyes.
And the father said, ‘There, that’ll teach you never to
trust anybody!’

Any person who would do such a thing to a child, should
have their child taken away from them.  To scar a child like
that is inhumane in my opinion.  Who can a child trust if
they can’t trust their parents!  I don’t know if this was a
true story or not but I would not be surprised that similar
occurrences have happened.

The story was the opening paragraph of Harry Lorayne’s
eleventh chapter of his book, ‘Secrets of Mind Power’.

Now to go to the rest of the chapter in Harry Lorayne’s
book on ‘Mind Power‘ does seem anti-climatic and unrelated
to that disturbing story.  The chapter though is about trusting
people and I can sure see where someone would grow up
trusting no one after that treatment.

Hopefully anyone who had an abusive parent as that
father‘ would meet others who could assure that person
that all people aren’t like that ‘father‘. Whether you think so
or not, that is abusive behaviour, a child’s feelings are
very fragile.  They remember actions such as those
for the rest of their life.

Patricia

You must Trust Others – If You want to Succeed

June 7th, 2010

When I first read the start of this chapter I was
appalled!  Reading it again I am no less appalled,
anyone who would do such a thing to a child, does
not deserve to have children! <Go here>

Continuing with the rest of the chapter in Harry Lorayne’s
book on ‘Secrets of Mind Power‘ :
This chapter is about trusting people and I can sure see
where someone would grow up trusting no one after that
treatment.

Lorayne talks of not liking books that have no ‘meat’ or as
he says are “‘blue sky’ – nice and flowery”.  He gives an
example of books that just, “preach, ‘Have faith‘; faith in
God or faith in yourself.”  He didn’t write this to argue about
religion for he knows everyone has their own beliefs.  He
feels ’90 per cent’ of those who read faith books know the
value of and believe ‘that faith in God is almost a necessity
for a happy life’.

He feels though that ‘God might prefer you to take care of
some of your own problems’.  He doesn’t think God expects
Him to solve all our problems, and not doing anything for
ourselves.  Which reminds me of the story of the man who
was stuck in a tree during a flood.  A boat comes by to
rescue him and he says, ‘no thanks, I’m waiting for God to
rescue me.’ More people try to rescue him, even a
helicopter, and he continues to say no, ‘he is waiting on
God’.  Having faith in God is recognizing when He is
helping you and not expecting some ‘beam me up Scotty’
rescue solution.

Lorayne states that after all we do have a brain which
we are suppose to use to think for ourselves.  He thinks
God had an ulterior motive when He gave us a brain; to
relieve some of His burden.  I don’t think I agree with that.
I think God’s only burden…

Gardening Between Rains

May 24th, 2010

Well, I have been out gardening so have not
worked on the next chapter of Harry Lorayne’s
book yet.  Our growing season is fairly short
so have to ‘make hay while the sun shines’ as
the saying goes.

It has been raining a fair amount but I have
managed to get in about 20 rows of corn,
potatoes, beans and peas.  I have also
planted about 15 hills of cucumbers, but do
want to plant more.  Today I transplanted my
cabbage and tomatoes.  Do have more tomatoes
to put in.  It is raining tonight so probably won’t
get them in tomorrow.

The farmers won’t like this rain, they have already
had enough and most of them don’t have their
crops all in yet.  My husband and I have retired
from farming this year though we will still be
living on the farm.  We have rented the land
out to a neighbour for the year so don’t have
that stress to worry about this season.

I will be writing in my blog as yard and garden
allow me.  Hope everyone in the Northern
Hemisphere has a good summer and those
in the Southern Hemisphere hopefully have
a good winter.

Patricia

More about habits

May 15th, 2010

Lorayne feels unhappiness is just a bad habit.  He suggests
getting up every morning, look at yourself in the mirror and smile.
Really!  Happiness is a state of mind and if you tell yourself you
are happy it is possible that you will be.  You will also be healthier,
for it has been proven that being in a positive attitude makes you
feel better.

Another thing Harry feels strongly about is making prompt
decisions!  Indecision is a waste of time plus it does cause
unhappiness.  Chapter Seven is where taking action and making
prompt decisions is discussed.

William James (psychologist and philosopher) says, “There is no
more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual
but
indecision!”

Shyness is another reason for unhappiness which can be
overcome by showing an interest in others and doing our
best to make them feel comfortable.  Harry realizes and I’m
sure many of you do as well, that everyone thinks of themselves
and how they look to others.  Shyness causes us to be
uncomfortable, uneasy and self-conscious because we are
worried about what others think of us.

If we make it a habit to think of others and their comfort instead
of our own we won’t have time to think of ourselves.  We are all
the same and have the same kind of thoughts, it is just that many
have worked at being interested in others and don’t seem shy.
Of course there are always people who interest us naturally
without having to work at it.  Plus there are also people who show
too much interest in others, we just have to use common sense.

Patricia

Chapter 10 Strengthening Good Habits – Discarding Bad Ones

May 14th, 2010

“Habit is either the best of servants, or worst of masters.”
Nathaniel Emmons (American theologian)

Since Harry Lorayne is neither a psychiatrist nor a
psychologist he didn’t think he should get into some
areas of good and bad habits that he would have
preferred to. He does have his own thoughts about
habits that he wanted to share.

Your life would flow along much smoother and easier
if you have acquired good habits. “A man’s fortune has
its form given to it by his habits.”  Lorayne suggests,
“If you can train your self to acquire good habits of health,
recreation, prompt decision-making, learning and work,
you will almost surely form the habit of success and
happiness.”

Now bad habits, that is a different story!  {more…}

Patricia

Chapter 9 -You Can Solve Your Problems –

May 8th, 2010

Once You Know What They Are

Dr. John Donnelly wrote: “Every problem of frustration
which is faced realistically and dealt with in an organized
way adds to the strength of the personality.  Every failure
from which a lesson has been learned provides both an
experience and an asset which increases our capacity to
meet new problems
.”

The big problems weren’t mentioned in my last article.
Sometimes it is a lot of small problems that seem like one
big one.  No matter how big the problem is Lorayne says to
look for the heart of the problem. He says to take care of
the problem that is constantly on your mind.  Get rid of that
and you will be one step closer to the main problem.

Looking at the whole picture and dwelling on it can stymie you.
It is good to look at the big picture but when starting to deal with
it you need to look at small parts of it and deal with them one at a
time.  Lorayne suggests that uncertainty , doubt and indecision
are habits we need to get rid of before we can deal with our problems.

Goethe (well-known author) put it this way,”Do the duty that
lies nearest thee, thy next duty will then become clearer
.”

Lorayne deals with the objections concerning lack of money,
poor health and physical handicaps.  He suggests that realizing that
others are worse off than we are helps temporarily but doesn’t fix our
problems.  He suggests, “that one way to make ends meet is to get
off your own
!”

Most of us have to..<more>

Increase Your Vocabulary

May 7th, 2010

Lorayne feels we are less likely to fall for certain
ideas or sales pitches if we increase our vocabulary.
He feels an increased vocabulary means greater
mind power‘.  He says that when we think, we are
talking to ourselves.  When we think we produce
pictures in our mind and talk to ourselves about
those pictures.

Scientists have proven that our lips and larynx move
with our thoughts.

Lorayne believes that the more words we are familiar
with the easier it will be for us to think accurately.
Make the effort to look up words that you hear or
read to enlarge your vocabulary and thus improve
your thinking. Reading can expand your mind if you
are selective with your reading material.

Lorayne jokes, ” If you are going to talk to yourself,
you might as well make it an intelligent conversation!”

In his book he suggests different ways to exercise your
mind. Reading, of course, but also he lists different
problem solving activities, such as; crossword puzzles,
cryptograms or as I stated in the last article his ‘solvems’.
The one example I gave was about ‘John’ who couldn’t
sleep in his hotel room.

Here is another one:
Cleo is lying dead on the living room carpet. She is
surrounded by broken glass and water. Tom is asleep
in the bedroom. Why?

The answer to this one is kind of silly; but it still takes
some thinking to latch on to it: Cleo is a goldfish; the
broken glass and water are her former home — the
fish tank. Tom is a cat who knocked the whole thing
over! That’s all.

Now that one I will make my own observation:  To me
Cleo would not be lying on the carpet. Tom maybe would
be sleeping but not until after he ate Cleo!

Lorayne also gives some examples of cryptograms and
then goes on to what he calls a ‘brain twister’ to set your
thinking straight’:

You’re lost in a forest which is inhabited by Red men and
Green men only. The Red men always tell the truth; the
Green men always lie. You come to a fork in the road;  you
have to get to a town called “Umgowa,” but you don’t know
whether to take the right or left road. There is a man standing
at the fork, but it is too dark to see if he’s Red or Green.

The twister is this:  Can you ask just one question of this man,
which calls for a “yes” or “no” answer, and find out which is the
correct road to take?..<more>

Patricia

Chapter 8 – Multiply Your Output

May 2nd, 2010

By the Habit of Concentration

As car manufacturers need to streamline their vehicles
to cut down resistance we need to streamline our minds.
Harry Lorayne believes we need to get rid of resistance
to get to the heart of a problem by the art of concentration.
Concentration is an art that has to be learned.

The dictionary says that concentration is:  exclusive
attention on one object.  Believe it or not, it is not easy to
concentrate on one thing for any length of time.  It takes
practice and Lorayne says that if you want to get rid of
a bad habit, replace it with the habit of concentration.

Exclusive attention: No other thought, no matter how trivial,
can be…{more}

You Can Find Time For Everything

April 25th, 2010

Dost thou love life?  Then do not squander time,  for that
is the stuff life is made of
.’  Benjamin Franklin

There is a lot of good advice in this chapter in which I don’t
know if there is any better way to say it than the way Harry
Lorayne has written it.

We are all definitely born equal; “Nobody has more time than
you have and nobody has less.  No one can inherit time—or
keep it in a bank to gather interest.”

“An hour contains sixty minutes no matter who is using it.
And even knowing the “right’ people cannot get you more
than twenty-four hours per day.”

The only way to save time is to spend it wisely. Invest your
time properly by improving yourself mentally and physically.
I’m sure you have heard it before, ” but it seems that if you
give a job to a busy person they always seem to have time to
do the job.”

A busy person can’t afford to get behind in their work, so
by..{more}